Monday, 7 May 2012
Saturday, 5 May 2012
Sex after Myomectomy
I listened to the doctor and nurses telling me after my surgery NO SEX!! and I smiled and said the way I am feeling now I do not even want to be touched. I meant every word of it. I could not walk up right, I had to hold my husband's hand as I walked, I was moving slowly, my body was weak and sore, I couldnt laugh or cough...where was sex in that equation?
2 1/2 weeks after, I was again reminded by my surgeon, no sex. I laughed then. At that time i had my first Lupron shot and I have already read about your body going into menopause and so desire for sex was at a minimal. Did i consider my husband in all this? Of course, but he felt he could make it. His concern for my health and my progression back to normality, I guess have numb every other part of him.
It has been a little over 3 weeks with just about 3 weeks to go and the lupron did not quite kick in as I thought it would. I have some minor hot flashes and I was told I should have a period, but you know those feelings you get leading up to your period...My Lord!! 6 weeks no longer seem like a breeze because I am married, still very young in the marriage thing and ...Well I started reading blog about other people who wanted to know how soon after myomectomy you can have sex and I can tell you some people wanted to know within 2 weeks of their surgery. I guess we did good, but it is not an easy thing. So with 3 weeks to go, I have to find all the things I can do to keep myself busy in body, mind and spirit so I wouldn't think about sex. So yes people, when considering surgery, consider the absence of sex for some time.
2 1/2 weeks after, I was again reminded by my surgeon, no sex. I laughed then. At that time i had my first Lupron shot and I have already read about your body going into menopause and so desire for sex was at a minimal. Did i consider my husband in all this? Of course, but he felt he could make it. His concern for my health and my progression back to normality, I guess have numb every other part of him.
It has been a little over 3 weeks with just about 3 weeks to go and the lupron did not quite kick in as I thought it would. I have some minor hot flashes and I was told I should have a period, but you know those feelings you get leading up to your period...My Lord!! 6 weeks no longer seem like a breeze because I am married, still very young in the marriage thing and ...Well I started reading blog about other people who wanted to know how soon after myomectomy you can have sex and I can tell you some people wanted to know within 2 weeks of their surgery. I guess we did good, but it is not an easy thing. So with 3 weeks to go, I have to find all the things I can do to keep myself busy in body, mind and spirit so I wouldn't think about sex. So yes people, when considering surgery, consider the absence of sex for some time.
Friday, 4 May 2012
Thursday, 3 May 2012
A blog of encouragement for those suffering with fibroid and other uterus issues: You need to read this!
This morning as I left up in prayer all those who have posted, commented or even read my blog page, especially those who are suffering with fibroid, endometriosis, PCOS and other issues of the uterus, I felt compelled to write this blog.
There is no one else who can understands you like we do. We who have gone through and felt what is is like to be changing pads more than 4 times in a day, who have to be careful how we sit lest we shift things in the wrong way, we who have felt the pain and pressure of issues, we who have been emotionally scarred and abused simply by what we are going through, we who wished we had a break from out periods and now we wish we can have it every month...We all might not endure all of the above but we have endured some so we understand.
Let me encourage you. DON'T GIVE UP HOPE! Hope is the essence of us living and striving for better. When we lost hope, there is a tendency for us to sink into a state of depression. Have you ever look at a child and say to yourself, i am too old , it is too late for me and all the other reasons you tell yourself even though every molecule of your body desire to have a child. Have you ever felt like removing your entire uterus just to get rid of all the issues you are facing once and for all? We are in a state where we are faced with tough decisions and if hope leave us we might make the WRONG decisions. Maybe my situation is different from you because I believe and trust in God, knowing that he will grant me the desires of my heart. I found though that my hope, which is pretty much based on my trust in God has grant me certain benefits. Here are some benefits of staying hopeful:
There is no one else who can understands you like we do. We who have gone through and felt what is is like to be changing pads more than 4 times in a day, who have to be careful how we sit lest we shift things in the wrong way, we who have felt the pain and pressure of issues, we who have been emotionally scarred and abused simply by what we are going through, we who wished we had a break from out periods and now we wish we can have it every month...We all might not endure all of the above but we have endured some so we understand.
Let me encourage you. DON'T GIVE UP HOPE! Hope is the essence of us living and striving for better. When we lost hope, there is a tendency for us to sink into a state of depression. Have you ever look at a child and say to yourself, i am too old , it is too late for me and all the other reasons you tell yourself even though every molecule of your body desire to have a child. Have you ever felt like removing your entire uterus just to get rid of all the issues you are facing once and for all? We are in a state where we are faced with tough decisions and if hope leave us we might make the WRONG decisions. Maybe my situation is different from you because I believe and trust in God, knowing that he will grant me the desires of my heart. I found though that my hope, which is pretty much based on my trust in God has grant me certain benefits. Here are some benefits of staying hopeful:
- I am comforted in my mind and spirit knowing that I will achieve my desires
- Stress is reduce because I keep optimistic and there is no negative energy in my body
- I strive to live a healthier lifestyle because my HOPE is telling me that if I am going to achieve these things I need to do these things
- I am happy and always smiling as I await my fulfillment and as a result those around me are happy and comforted.
- I leave no way for negative talks eg. too old for children, i would not be healed, it was never meant to be, children is not for everybody, my husband will leave me for barrenness. In fact I rebuke persons who whether knowingly or unknowingly deposit negative thoughts in my head.
- I continue to read articles and blogs because of my hope that one day Ill find the right solutions to my problems.
Now check yourself, tell me how you are feeling and what you have been doing or stop doing and then I can tell you if you have lost hope and needs to rebuild it. Have a blessed night.
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