Have I waited too long?

There are many of us who spend our time seeking to improve ourselves in this modern world. We want to have a good education, a good career, a nice house and car, a good husband and lovely children. So we make our decisions and prioritize. Education and career seems to be at the forefront, and there is nothing wrong with that. We all want to have a better life than the one of our parents and we want our kids to grow up having all that they want, no worries about clothing and school fees etc. Of course, for some of us, we watched our parents struggle on little income with 2 and more siblings and so we want different. Still, when we have it all or reach the point where we feel we can afford to have kids, and are now face with the issues of child bearing, has it ever cross your minds, have I waited too long? It crossed my mind several times.

Many of us have lived our lives believing that what we were facing in our younger days, the terribly painful periods, the irregular periods (which some of us were so happy for), the heavy clotty periods, abdominal cramps, missing school, missing work and it went on and on, but we thought it was a common thing. In fact, some doctors even told us it was common. So we spent our lives, trying to better ourselves and earn enough so we can have a satisfactory, happy life with our kids in the future. We got married, but we never rush to have kids because it is a good thing to spend at least 2 years enjoying your marriage, at least so we were told, no rush. Then the day came and we thought it would be easy. Once that birth control stop, bam! To our distress, it was not. Months passed and we realized, it can't be normal. We visit doctors who want us to wait at least a year before doing any fertility testing, but we are already emotional, distress, scared. Would I ever be able to give my husband a kid? Lord, even if it is one, we beg. I don't want to get too old. Have I waited too long?

Some questions we can only answer for ourselves. However, there are some important points I grasped along the way, which may influence our decisions:

• Normal to you is not always normal. Visit your gynae regularly. Express your symptoms in details and run the tests. If symptoms persist and your present doctor kept telling you it is normal, while refusing to send you for tests, change your doctor. Visit a specialist. Get your answers. A peaceful mind is stress free.
• Try live healthy from the beginning. It is not always easy and sure there are times we are doing it and the problem exists anyway, but an unhealthy lifestyle can create problems or worsen existing ones. 
• If you are already married, especially if that's your religions belief, make sure you know your status before you decide to wait for kids. Really, really important. I am sure everyone decisions would be influenced by this information.
• Finally, while education and career is important, think, would you choose it over having a child? I look at my own life. I grew up with little, within a struggling home, but neither myself nor my siblings ever go hungry or without clothes on our back. We were happy with the little we have. So while we all want to give our children the world, we wouldn't want to have the world and no kids. Maybe it is better to have a kid or two, who we are able to bring up in a happy home though the resources are limited. I am sure if we have information on our fertility earlier, we would have make different decisions in spite of what  resources we have. So again, don't take anything simple, visit your doctor. 

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