Unwanted Hysterectomy

Until recently, I could not fathom what it is like to have a hysterectomy. I reflected on my hospital experience, a few hours before my myomectomy where I was given the speech by the doctor and asked to sign a paper for a hysterectomy. I had already stressed, over and over again, the need to keep my womb and I chose not to even think about the chance that a hysterectomy would have to be performed. I wanted to so that I can prepare myself mentally, but I could not. 

Recently, I visited my friend in the hospital. She went in for a myomectomy and ended up with a hysterectomy because of complications. At less than 30 years old and no kids, she had lost her womb. I looked at her. I wanted to say something positive, but I found myself lost for words. Even as a Christian, I could not muster up a few words. I wondered, what could anyone say to me if all hope of birthing a child was lost... probably nothing. I could not think of anything I would have wanted to hear and so there was nothing I could have said, except looked at her and offer her a listening ear. Yet, she was strong and thankful to God for life, realising that it could have been worse. 

A week after, I met another friend who underwent hysterectomy. A few years have passed, but it did not take away the emptiness of wanting a child and so she adopted one and she is extremely happy. You could not tell that she did not give birth to that child. The way she expressed her love was incredible and it let me know that the world is not over with a hysterectomy. That overtime, things will become clearer. Even though you cannot change what has happened, happiness is still within your grasp. It would not be east to accept, but you will get through.

Still, these two situations have shown me the need for persons to share their stories. I ask of you today, to use my blog to share your stories. If you cannot post, email me and I will post it for you. I am a myomectomy patient and I can relate to those who had the surgery. A year after, I was blessed with a baby girl (almost 5months to date). There are persons who have had multiple surgeries and are still waiting for their blessing, so while I might be able to give hope to many and encourage others through my personal story, there are many out there who can also help. You can let people know how you have found support through whatever you are going through. I remember the many silent tears I have cried and I know how uplifted I felt when I was able to speak to someone who is going through a similar condition. So again I asked, please share your stories. You can do it anonymously. Let us continue to support each other as women.